Using Failure to Ensure Success By Michael Masterson
In his book "Failing Forward," John C. Maxwell provides this formula for "making friends with failure":
1. Recognize that a willingness to fail is the chief difference between successful people and average people.
In Maxwell's opinion, success has little to do with wealth, family, background, morals, or opportunity.
"When it comes right down to it," he says, "I know of only one factor that separates those who consistently shine from those who don't: their perception of and response to failure."
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2. Redefine failure.
Maxwell says that people are too quick to judge isolated situations and label them as failures.
A successful person sees a setback as temporary and beneficial - something to learn from.
As basketball coach Rick Pitino once said, "Failure is good. It's fertilizer. Everything I've learned about coaching I've learned from making mistakes."
2. Redefine failure.
Maxwell says that people are too quick to judge isolated situations and label them as failures.
A successful person sees a setback as temporary and beneficial - something to learn from.
As basketball coach Rick Pitino once said, "Failure is good. It's fertilizer. Everything I've learned about coaching I've learned from making mistakes."
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3. Disconnect yourself from your mistakes.
The trick to overcoming the fear of failure is to disassociate yourself from it. To understand that, as Maxwell says, "your failure does not make you a failure."
Instead of beating yourself when you make a mistake, tell yourself, "I am not a failure. I failed at doing this."
Keep in mind that every successful person has experienced failure. Mozart, a musical genius, was told by Emperor Ferdinand that The Marriage of Figaro was "far too noisy" and contained "far too many notes."
Thomas Edison, the most prolific inventor in history, was considered unteachable as a youngster.
And Albert Einstein, the greatest thinker of modern times, was told by a Munich schoolmaster that he would never amount to much.
3. Disconnect yourself from your mistakes.
The trick to overcoming the fear of failure is to disassociate yourself from it. To understand that, as Maxwell says, "your failure does not make you a failure."
Instead of beating yourself when you make a mistake, tell yourself, "I am not a failure. I failed at doing this."
Keep in mind that every successful person has experienced failure. Mozart, a musical genius, was told by Emperor Ferdinand that The Marriage of Figaro was "far too noisy" and contained "far too many notes."
Thomas Edison, the most prolific inventor in history, was considered unteachable as a youngster.
And Albert Einstein, the greatest thinker of modern times, was told by a Munich schoolmaster that he would never amount to much.
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4. Take action to remove fear.
Recognize that your fear of failure is based not on logic but on experience. To get rid of that paralyzing fear, you must take action.
"If you can take action and keep making mistakes," says Maxwell, "you gain experience.
That experience eventually brings competence, and you make fewer mistakes. As a result of making fewer mistakes, your fear becomes less paralyzing.
But the whole cycle-breaking process starts with action.
You must act your way into feeling, not wait for positive emotions to carry you forward."
4. Take action to remove fear.
Recognize that your fear of failure is based not on logic but on experience. To get rid of that paralyzing fear, you must take action.
"If you can take action and keep making mistakes," says Maxwell, "you gain experience.
That experience eventually brings competence, and you make fewer mistakes. As a result of making fewer mistakes, your fear becomes less paralyzing.
But the whole cycle-breaking process starts with action.
You must act your way into feeling, not wait for positive emotions to carry you forward."
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5. Change the way you respond to failure.
Some people get angry when they fail. Others, unwilling to accept responsibility, look for scapegoats.
Some people, stubborn people, ignore their negative results and continue to repeat their unsuccessful actions. Still others simply give up.
"There's really only one solution to the gridlock on the failure freeway," Maxwell says, "and that's to wake up and find the exit."
In other words, to accept responsibility for the actions that contributed to your failure. And to change your behavior accordingly.
The title that Maxwell chose for his book - "Failing Forward" - sums up this philosophy nicely: If you march long enough, you will stumble. Whether you stumble forward or stumble backward or stop marching completely is entirely up to you.
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5. Change the way you respond to failure.
Some people get angry when they fail. Others, unwilling to accept responsibility, look for scapegoats.
Some people, stubborn people, ignore their negative results and continue to repeat their unsuccessful actions. Still others simply give up.
"There's really only one solution to the gridlock on the failure freeway," Maxwell says, "and that's to wake up and find the exit."
In other words, to accept responsibility for the actions that contributed to your failure. And to change your behavior accordingly.
The title that Maxwell chose for his book - "Failing Forward" - sums up this philosophy nicely: If you march long enough, you will stumble. Whether you stumble forward or stumble backward or stop marching completely is entirely up to you.
Source: ETR
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Keys To Success In Life: 3 Powerful Ways To Succeed In Life By Michael Lee
The keys to success in life lie in the kind of values you have. Are you an honest sort of person? Do you tell the truth or do you make up stories whenever you think you can get away with it? Have you donated to charity lately? How do you handle losing in a competition?
Your answers to these questions hold the keys to success in life. Read this article to learn more!
Key # 1 To Success In Life: Respect Others.
One of the keys to success in life is respecting other people. I’ve seen people make it to the top only to fall back down again because they don’t treat other people with proper respect.
They belittle and might even humiliate those beneath their status, and talk smack about their superiors in secret. These people think that they’re better than others; but truthfully, they’re just insecure and paranoid.
Take bullies for example. They trample on those who they think they can push around; but when it comes right down to it, they don’t have the real courage to take life by the reigns and run after success without using other people as a shield.
Besides, life has a way of getting back at you. If you respect other people, they will do the same to you. They will help you along your journey and guide you up the ladder of success.
Key # 2 To Success In Life: Believe in Yourself.
So many people set themselves up for failure simply because they don’t have enough faith in themselves. While being modest is a characteristic often admired, it does not mean underestimating your own capabilities or undermining what you can do.
Be grateful for the talents you were blessed with and use them as much as you can. In this sort of situation, nothing is keeping you from achieving success. The only person holding you back is yourself.
Key # 3 To Success In Life: Live In The Present And Keep Moving Forward.
To succeed in life, you must look to the future. The past helps you avoid making the same mistakes and gives you advice on what plans work, but it does not rule you.
You may have had a sweeter life years back, but dwelling on it during tough times won’t help you recover what you lost or help you attain your goals. You’ll have to live in the present and steadily work your way into the future.
These values may have been ingrained to you as a child by your parents or they may be values you have developed on your own as you grew up. They are the keys to success in life.
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/keys ... _life.html
The keys to success in life lie in the kind of values you have. Are you an honest sort of person? Do you tell the truth or do you make up stories whenever you think you can get away with it? Have you donated to charity lately? How do you handle losing in a competition?
Your answers to these questions hold the keys to success in life. Read this article to learn more!
Key # 1 To Success In Life: Respect Others.
One of the keys to success in life is respecting other people. I’ve seen people make it to the top only to fall back down again because they don’t treat other people with proper respect.
They belittle and might even humiliate those beneath their status, and talk smack about their superiors in secret. These people think that they’re better than others; but truthfully, they’re just insecure and paranoid.
Take bullies for example. They trample on those who they think they can push around; but when it comes right down to it, they don’t have the real courage to take life by the reigns and run after success without using other people as a shield.
Besides, life has a way of getting back at you. If you respect other people, they will do the same to you. They will help you along your journey and guide you up the ladder of success.
Key # 2 To Success In Life: Believe in Yourself.
So many people set themselves up for failure simply because they don’t have enough faith in themselves. While being modest is a characteristic often admired, it does not mean underestimating your own capabilities or undermining what you can do.
Be grateful for the talents you were blessed with and use them as much as you can. In this sort of situation, nothing is keeping you from achieving success. The only person holding you back is yourself.
Key # 3 To Success In Life: Live In The Present And Keep Moving Forward.
To succeed in life, you must look to the future. The past helps you avoid making the same mistakes and gives you advice on what plans work, but it does not rule you.
You may have had a sweeter life years back, but dwelling on it during tough times won’t help you recover what you lost or help you attain your goals. You’ll have to live in the present and steadily work your way into the future.
These values may have been ingrained to you as a child by your parents or they may be values you have developed on your own as you grew up. They are the keys to success in life.
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/keys ... _life.html
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3 Vital Positive Character Traits That You Need to Succeed in Life By Michael Lee
In life, you need to equip yourself with positive character traits in order to become successful. There will be times when you have to face obstacles that seem overwhelming; but if you’re prepared, you don’t have any reason to be afraid.
Be it at work, in school or in relationships, you need to develop these positive character traits to make the best out of any situation.
1) Patience
Patience is one of the positive character traits every person needs to have. Unfortunately, a lot of people aren’t born with it. In fact, many people prefer to charge into situations without a plan or some sort of strategy.
But with patience, you’ll have time to collect yourself and see the situation from a more neutral point of view. You would be able to come up with better solutions to your problem if only you waited a bit longer.
Patience also helps you work better. For example, you have a project due Monday. In your haste to get it over with, you end up submitting a less than satisfactory product. Had you been more patient, you would have been able to execute your work better.
2) Resourcefulness
Life doesn’t always give you what you need. Sometimes, you’ll have to go looking for it all on your own, or you might have to come up with another alternative.
Facing a situation like this can be very stressful. However, being resourceful will help you create a new plan that still brings the same result in the end.
Once your boss sees how you managed to handle the situation, the rewards will be worth it. By being resourceful, you’re showing your superiors and colleagues that they can always count on you.
3) Humility
One of the most vital positive character traits to have is humility. For one, being humble helps keep enemies and rivals at bay. While you can’t always prevent other people from being jealous, you can at least keep the tension in the office to a minimum. Besides, nobody likes an arrogant person.
Never mind that you have all the ideal traits. If you don’t humble yourself enough, you’ll end up having nobody who wants to work with you. You’ll be causing discord in your team and no matter how great you are at what you do; the boss won’t want to hear that you’re not a team player.
These three are just some of the positive character traits every person should have and can come in handy during emergency situations.
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/3_Vi ... _Life.html
In life, you need to equip yourself with positive character traits in order to become successful. There will be times when you have to face obstacles that seem overwhelming; but if you’re prepared, you don’t have any reason to be afraid.
Be it at work, in school or in relationships, you need to develop these positive character traits to make the best out of any situation.
1) Patience
Patience is one of the positive character traits every person needs to have. Unfortunately, a lot of people aren’t born with it. In fact, many people prefer to charge into situations without a plan or some sort of strategy.
But with patience, you’ll have time to collect yourself and see the situation from a more neutral point of view. You would be able to come up with better solutions to your problem if only you waited a bit longer.
Patience also helps you work better. For example, you have a project due Monday. In your haste to get it over with, you end up submitting a less than satisfactory product. Had you been more patient, you would have been able to execute your work better.
2) Resourcefulness
Life doesn’t always give you what you need. Sometimes, you’ll have to go looking for it all on your own, or you might have to come up with another alternative.
Facing a situation like this can be very stressful. However, being resourceful will help you create a new plan that still brings the same result in the end.
Once your boss sees how you managed to handle the situation, the rewards will be worth it. By being resourceful, you’re showing your superiors and colleagues that they can always count on you.
3) Humility
One of the most vital positive character traits to have is humility. For one, being humble helps keep enemies and rivals at bay. While you can’t always prevent other people from being jealous, you can at least keep the tension in the office to a minimum. Besides, nobody likes an arrogant person.
Never mind that you have all the ideal traits. If you don’t humble yourself enough, you’ll end up having nobody who wants to work with you. You’ll be causing discord in your team and no matter how great you are at what you do; the boss won’t want to hear that you’re not a team player.
These three are just some of the positive character traits every person should have and can come in handy during emergency situations.
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/3_Vi ... _Life.html
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How To Visualize: 3 Simple Tips To Visualize And Get What You Want By Michael Lee
Visualizing has become a part of me. Perhaps this is because I have been learning how to visualize ever since I was young. Through reading novels, watching television and writing in my journal, I have trained my mind to see or create things I want to see in my life.
However, not everyone finds it easy. Sometimes, the pressure of work or school makes the mind weary and unable to concentrate. If you’re one of those who are having a bit of trouble learning how to visualize, then this article is for you. Allow me to share what years of practice have taught me.
Relax.
The first thing you must do is clear your mind of any unnecessary worries. If you’re in a very busy environment, simply relax and take your mind away from the place.
Close your eyes and be aware of your body - your hands, your feet, your shoulders… this is the best way you can learn how to visualize.
When you’re relaxed, your mind becomes more positive and accepting of your dreams. Once you master this first step, everything else will follow.
Post Pictures Of What You Want.
If you want to move to a bigger and better apartment, you can cut out pictures of the kind of home you want and post it up in your cubicle or in your room. Make sure you can see it everyday.
If you can’t visualize exactly what kind of place you want to move in, seeing real-life pictures of something close to it will greatly help you. This way, you will always remember the kind of place you really want to move into. Wherever you go, visualizing it will be almost automatic.
Do Not Be Afraid.
Lastly, do not be afraid to ask for the things you really want. At some point, you might begin to feel that you don’t deserve such a house or that with your income, such a thing is not possible. This kind of thinking will only weaken the results of your visualization.
Learning how to visualize means being honest and proud with what you really want in life. Don’t limit your imagination. You might be surprised to see that the things you previously considered as unattainable is within your reach.
Learning and mastering how to visualize is just the first stage for getting what you want. What comes next are opportunities that will lead you to whatever it is you have visualized over and over in your head. Open your eyes and mind, and you will soon find yourself earning the fruits of your visualization.
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/How_ ... _Want.html
Visualizing has become a part of me. Perhaps this is because I have been learning how to visualize ever since I was young. Through reading novels, watching television and writing in my journal, I have trained my mind to see or create things I want to see in my life.
However, not everyone finds it easy. Sometimes, the pressure of work or school makes the mind weary and unable to concentrate. If you’re one of those who are having a bit of trouble learning how to visualize, then this article is for you. Allow me to share what years of practice have taught me.
Relax.
The first thing you must do is clear your mind of any unnecessary worries. If you’re in a very busy environment, simply relax and take your mind away from the place.
Close your eyes and be aware of your body - your hands, your feet, your shoulders… this is the best way you can learn how to visualize.
When you’re relaxed, your mind becomes more positive and accepting of your dreams. Once you master this first step, everything else will follow.
Post Pictures Of What You Want.
If you want to move to a bigger and better apartment, you can cut out pictures of the kind of home you want and post it up in your cubicle or in your room. Make sure you can see it everyday.
If you can’t visualize exactly what kind of place you want to move in, seeing real-life pictures of something close to it will greatly help you. This way, you will always remember the kind of place you really want to move into. Wherever you go, visualizing it will be almost automatic.
Do Not Be Afraid.
Lastly, do not be afraid to ask for the things you really want. At some point, you might begin to feel that you don’t deserve such a house or that with your income, such a thing is not possible. This kind of thinking will only weaken the results of your visualization.
Learning how to visualize means being honest and proud with what you really want in life. Don’t limit your imagination. You might be surprised to see that the things you previously considered as unattainable is within your reach.
Learning and mastering how to visualize is just the first stage for getting what you want. What comes next are opportunities that will lead you to whatever it is you have visualized over and over in your head. Open your eyes and mind, and you will soon find yourself earning the fruits of your visualization.
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/How_ ... _Want.html
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Everything that is today could not be if it were not for that which was before.
--- Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop in El Paso, TX on Saturday, November 14th, 1998 # 94
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--- Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop in El Paso, TX on Saturday, November 14th, 1998 # 94
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7 Laws of Attraction - How to Attract Your Dreams By Michael Lee
The law of attraction is a very basic but all-encompassing law wherein what you focus on - positive or negative - you get. The 7 Laws of Attraction explain the principles of this law in detail. Read the 7 Laws of Attraction below and get tips on how to make your thoughts materialize. Let these guide you to success.
1. The Law of Manifestation
What you think about, and believe in, manifests. What you create in the mind, you create in reality. The more you focus on it, the greater the chances of it materializing. High intensity with high frequency does the trick.
This law recognizes no right or wrong - it just materializes whatever you are thinking. So choose your thoughts carefully. Give attention to what you believe really matters. You are either limited or expanded only by your thoughts. They literally define you and the things that happen to you.
2. The Law of Unwavering Desire
If you want something so purely and completely and you believe with all your heart that you deserve it, that you must have it, then you can only be sending out the right vibrations for the universe to receive and send back to you.
Let no fear or doubts hold you back.
3. The Law of Delicate Balance
Desperation is a negative emotion; and when you are desperate to have something, you may be sending out the wrong signals. It may seem like a contradiction to Law # 2, where desiring is beneficial to the attraction of positive energy towards yourself; but these 2 cases are different.
You must strike a delicate balance between the dream you hope to come true, and living contentedly in the moment. Do not make your goal the singular object of your desire that you neglect all other aspects of your life. Just know that it will happen in time and that, while waiting, you need not be so despondent.
4. The Law of Magnetism
In school we were taught that opposite poles attract and like poles repel each other. Not so in this case. Energy is as pervasive as air. It is all around us, even within us, and we ourselves radiate energy, though often we aren’t even aware of it.
But what we must know is that whatever kind of energy we emit—whether positive or negative—is the same kind we attract as it returns to us from the universe. What goes around comes around, as the saying goes.
5. The Law of Synchronization
The universe has much to offer in terms of gifts and gains. These fruits are yours for the taking, if you but align yourself and be in close harmony with the ‘Giver.’ Do not fight the flow or resist the order of things.
You are part of a greater whole, not a separate entity; to throw yourself into this realm and bask in it is not only a duty but a birthright.
6. The Law of Universal Influence
Do not take the tiniest of actions for granted. Even the most seemingly harmless of deeds can have influence, for we are all connected and, therefore, what I do affects you to a certain extent, and vice versa.
Since you are practically glowing with energy, which vibrates and is carried out into the world, it follows that others will pick up on it and be impacted by it. So exude only the positive.
7. The Law of Conscientious Action
Much like the principle of karma, this Law of Attraction follows the rule, "What you sow, you shall reap." Carry yourself with dignity and act only in a way that is honorable—to yourself and to others—and the rewards will be plenty.
Keep these 7 Laws of Attraction in your mind and apply them daily. You will find that they all work together, in harmony, not only individually. Though it might take some time to really imbibe each one of them, once you do you'll be surprised to see how easy it is to get what you want. Success is that sweet and easy.
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/7_La ... reams.html
The law of attraction is a very basic but all-encompassing law wherein what you focus on - positive or negative - you get. The 7 Laws of Attraction explain the principles of this law in detail. Read the 7 Laws of Attraction below and get tips on how to make your thoughts materialize. Let these guide you to success.
1. The Law of Manifestation
What you think about, and believe in, manifests. What you create in the mind, you create in reality. The more you focus on it, the greater the chances of it materializing. High intensity with high frequency does the trick.
This law recognizes no right or wrong - it just materializes whatever you are thinking. So choose your thoughts carefully. Give attention to what you believe really matters. You are either limited or expanded only by your thoughts. They literally define you and the things that happen to you.
2. The Law of Unwavering Desire
If you want something so purely and completely and you believe with all your heart that you deserve it, that you must have it, then you can only be sending out the right vibrations for the universe to receive and send back to you.
Let no fear or doubts hold you back.
3. The Law of Delicate Balance
Desperation is a negative emotion; and when you are desperate to have something, you may be sending out the wrong signals. It may seem like a contradiction to Law # 2, where desiring is beneficial to the attraction of positive energy towards yourself; but these 2 cases are different.
You must strike a delicate balance between the dream you hope to come true, and living contentedly in the moment. Do not make your goal the singular object of your desire that you neglect all other aspects of your life. Just know that it will happen in time and that, while waiting, you need not be so despondent.
4. The Law of Magnetism
In school we were taught that opposite poles attract and like poles repel each other. Not so in this case. Energy is as pervasive as air. It is all around us, even within us, and we ourselves radiate energy, though often we aren’t even aware of it.
But what we must know is that whatever kind of energy we emit—whether positive or negative—is the same kind we attract as it returns to us from the universe. What goes around comes around, as the saying goes.
5. The Law of Synchronization
The universe has much to offer in terms of gifts and gains. These fruits are yours for the taking, if you but align yourself and be in close harmony with the ‘Giver.’ Do not fight the flow or resist the order of things.
You are part of a greater whole, not a separate entity; to throw yourself into this realm and bask in it is not only a duty but a birthright.
6. The Law of Universal Influence
Do not take the tiniest of actions for granted. Even the most seemingly harmless of deeds can have influence, for we are all connected and, therefore, what I do affects you to a certain extent, and vice versa.
Since you are practically glowing with energy, which vibrates and is carried out into the world, it follows that others will pick up on it and be impacted by it. So exude only the positive.
7. The Law of Conscientious Action
Much like the principle of karma, this Law of Attraction follows the rule, "What you sow, you shall reap." Carry yourself with dignity and act only in a way that is honorable—to yourself and to others—and the rewards will be plenty.
Keep these 7 Laws of Attraction in your mind and apply them daily. You will find that they all work together, in harmony, not only individually. Though it might take some time to really imbibe each one of them, once you do you'll be surprised to see how easy it is to get what you want. Success is that sweet and easy.
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/7_La ... reams.html
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